Kids don't need to be guilt tripped about how much their parents suffered for them. We know.

My father used to always tell me that he knew he would go straight to heaven because I'm his purgatory here on Earth. This didn't do anyone any good for him to tell me this. All it did was make me wish I was dead. They were sending me to a shrink when I was 12 because I was frequently talking about suicide and making suicidal gestures. The shrink told my father to try and be nicer. That just made it worse. The shrink never did figure out that I was autistic or that I was developing C-PTSD from him trying to guilt and beat the autism out of me.

I tried to communicate with them. I had a hard time talking so I wrote notes. They tore up the notes in front of my face and told me I had to talk. Then when I tried talking they hit me for saying the wrong thing or saying the right thing in the wrong way -- same difference.

Kids know when they're a burden. Telling them this only makes it worse.