"If I can (do whatever) then you can too" is not a valid argument. No two people have the same experiences and capabilities. What's easy for you may be impossible for me, and vice versa.

For example, I am autistic and a bit of a math savant. College level math -- even the wonky stuff that math majors face as upperclassmen and grad students -- is my bread and butter. On the other hand, I'm face-blind and dyspraxic, two common co-morbidities with autism. Faceblind means I don't recognize people by their faces. (Try keeping up with work-politics when it takes you far too long to recognize your coworkers and bosses!) Dyspraxic means my body doesn't work right. It moves oddly in a way that others find unsettling. I was always picked last, I was often mocked, and I never could learn to drive.

So if I can work out Group Theory proofs in my head, you can too! And if you can drive and recognize your boss's face, I can too, right?

Remember your reaction to finding out about Sundown Towns. If you get a stomachache over your neighbors hollering at you over a parking place -- what kind of stomachache do you think they have after people who look like us telling them that they Have No Place -- for hundreds of years?

We've all got internal biases that erupt into microagressions -- and worse. I do, too. I've goofed up and said things that came out racist even though I didn't mean them to be, and I know how cringy that feels. And I saw quite a few biases in the tone and language of this article. And I'm not even Black -- I just see this stuff by analogy with the able-ism that I put up with all the time. If you don't see it, try putting yourself in your neighbors' shoes and re-read your article. If you're not feeling cringy on their behalf after doing so, I don't know what more I can say.

Thing is, the world is changing, racism is no longer acceptable, and people are pushing back. Try the Metti Prayer. (Google it.) Maybe it will help you develop the humility and compassion that we all need in this changing world.