I hear you. I'm autistic also. Being autistic is like being of a different species resembling human, or like being a visitor from another planet. We often need to have the rules of appropriate social contact spelled out explicitly, so I appreciate articles like this where Black people tell us how to act.

However, I feel that it's very intrusive to make eye contact or ask personal questions of other people. Moreover, I've seen quite a few Black writers say that they resent white folks asking them how they feel about an act of racist injustice,. I do all the other stuff listed here but asking Black people how they feel.